![]() ![]() It's damn hard to be in a situation like this, and I really hope for the best for you. I understand you love your mom and don't want to upset her, but I have feelings too and if we want to have a future together I need you to be there for me sometimes." In the end? You need to put it in plain terms, "I love you, I want to see you, if you continue to blow me off every weekend you're obviously not putting the effort into this relationship that I deserve. That's just something that if you stay with him you'll probably have to deal with and help him get to the point where he is doing it on his own. It's her way of feeling needed and controlling all at once. She raised him to be like this, to do these things for him. To this day, Mitchell looks at me, I see him thinking thats the guy who killed Flyza Minnelli. The menial stuff, well that's probably going to stay that way forever unless he just BREAKS the cycle which will be heard. I'm not saying every weekend must be spent by my side, but I really want to see you and you've told me you'd come visit." Say, "It really hurts that every weekend and holiday you choose her over me. ![]() Don't come at it with anger though, keep calm, keep him less defensive. He is your boyfriend, he needs to tend to your emotions too. He shouldn't downplay your feelings in this. Some things to talk about, explain to him: Trying to BREAK this habit is hard, and there is a big chance it will never be completely broken. The thing is, he's had 20 some years with this woman shaping him and modeling him into clay to follow her whims. It's one thing to sometimes indulge a mother, but not all the time. You can bring this stuff up-if he bets bent out of shape about it, tries to play it down then you need to think deeply about what kind of relationship you have. Honestly, you're going out with him for three years. You seem to have been as understanding as you could for as long as you could. You are not being irrational or controlling in this instance. ![]()
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